bellydancing does not require a partner.

[dancingleaf]

If I hear one more person say - oh but I want my friend to take it with me and....

You do not require a partner to bellydance.

Sure it's fun to do things with your friends but... for heaven's sake people. 

ARE YOU A GROWN UP OR WHAT?

Can you go to the bathroom by yourself and everything?

If I could think of a more polite way to phrase this I would put it up on my website. 

"no partner needed"  or "come make new friends"  ( you know ... new and better friends that - actually like getting out, laughing and dancing more than sitting around talking about it.)

Actually this would make an interesting poll on some of the bellydance websites.

Did you sign up for your first class by yourself, or with a friend?

Comments

[kelsey-lynne1.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean. I told my friend I was taking classes and she's all, "I've always wanted to do that but didn't have anyone to go with." So she signed up with me, but I was going to do it with or without her. She's not signing up again which doesn't surprise me.

[abitofanenigma.livejournal.com]

I hate people like that! That have to ask their friends if they can breathe, and can't bear to do anything without them. I mean, doing things together is fun, but the fact that you can't do something on your own without them present is a. childish (I haven't been like that since I was 14) and b. makes you look like a sheep - sorry! Do what YOU want to do.

Furthermore, I often find such people are less likely to integrate with the people around them and also more likely to bitch about the people around them because they keep their distance and will always have their friend to back them up. And they're most likely to drop out.

I do everything on my own - not purposefully, but I just don't see why I need accompaniment. If someone wants to join, fine - but sometimes I'd rather not have them with me. They expect you to drop out of it when they do, either because it's not fun for them or they're no good at it or can't be bothered, so you're expected to stop too. If you continue it's like some kind of betrayal. I mean, in the end no one is identical so you'll end up holding yourself and/or other people back if you only ever do the same things.

Agh people, think for yourselves!!!

[dancingleaf.livejournal.com]

HI! How are you? Haven't heard from you in ages. Making any progress toward your Japan goal?

and yes - agree with the keep their distance/frequency of drop out association.

[misheymo.livejournal.com]

sgned up for most of my classes by myself. sgned up with forestmaster once. but made friends : ]

[ata1anta.livejournal.com]

I signed up with a friend of mine way back when. Made a new friend too. Took classes on and off (mostly off) for the intervening 7 years. Another friend of mine started teaching locally, I put off taking her classes (LAZY!!!) but finally signed up with her classes and her former teacher's classes.

So I guess it's been friend involvement but more to get me off my butt and get it shimmying!

Same things goes for working out. I started taking workout classes and about a year later managed to drag my BF along. It's more fun with him there because we push each other (though the instructors push us also) and can gripe together about how much such and such move hurts now LOL